My Exercise Isn’t Actually About You


I had the displeasure of reading this on Wednesday.

Apparently you can’t post about exercise or fitness or training without revealing yourself to be the narcissistic, selfish loser who is missing something in their own life and is trying to make everyone else feel inferior into the bargain.

It’s not the exercise that’s to blame, it’s the sharing on Facebook.

Well you know I don’t necessarily want to see someone’s ingrown toenail on Facebook either. BUT THERE IT IS. And you know what I do? It’s a very advanced solution. I FREAKING SCROLL. Seriously, it’s not that hard.

I have friends who have similar interests to me and different interests to me and it stands to reason on a regular basis people are going to share things that are not of a particular interest to me in general. But you know what? Because I’m a human with feelings and a heart not made entirely of stone I usually actually care about what they are posting because we have a relationship and I care about them. But if I’m not feeling particularly friendly that day or I haven’t had enough coffee, I just scroll and the problem is solved. Like magic.

Boasting about your exercise and making other people feel inferior

Actually, I am not responsible for how you feel about anything I post. You are responsible for your own feelings. If my regular run updates (which incidentally are posted through Strava and like most running apps you can hide all updates from that particular app with a click of a button) make you feel inferior or guilty or lazy that has nothing to do with me. If you are comfortable with your own choices then no one elses choices are going to make you feel otherwise. And to be clear I don’t post to make anyone feel anything negative. I post because it’s something I love and something I’m proud of and a lot of people who I’m friends with on Facebook are interested in the same thing. It’s one way that we support one another.

Why don’t you take all that money you spend on exercise gear and donate it to charity instead of persisting in the farce of fun runs for charity?

Are we really having that all work for charity is worthless unless it’s completely selfless conversation? If people can do something that they love, with people they enjoy spending time with and raise some money for a cause that they are passionate about, shouldn’t we be supporting that? Having worked for a charity for five years I know a few things about it. The vast majority of charities are underfunded and are grateful for any and all donations they get, in whatever form they get them in. But usually, just as important as donations is raising awareness about their cause.

Over-exercise and Over-training are an addiction similar to thinspiration and should not be a source of pride.

And how are we defining over-exercise and over-training exactly? Anyone that annoys you in your Facebook feed? Are you aware of what their actual training plan is? Are you aware of when their rest days are? If not, there is no possible way of determining exercise addiction as opposed to someone who is committed to training and does so in a healthy and responsible manner.

While we are on the topic training for a marathon and overtraining are not the same thing either. There are plenty of marathon training plans that are achieved with only three runs per week. Something that I think anyone would consider moderate.

For the most part us blatant exercisers are an inclusive bunch.

We are actually not as competitive as you might think. I was at a race on the weekend and as someone passed me (I was struggling big time) they gave me  a squeeze of encouragment and said thanks – they’d been using me as someone to keep up with. As a pretty slow runner that was a big compliment to me.

When people tell me they can’t run or just don’t like to, I’m usually the first person to say that you have to find something you enjoy otherwise what’s the point?

I’ve had people get just as excited about seeing someone crack their first sub 8 minute kilometre as someone crack a sub 4 hour marathon. People are pretty cool that way.

It might not be your thing. And that’s cool too. But it really has nothing to do with you. It is not a judgement. It is just people doing what they love to do. I suggest you employ the scroll feature. It’s like magic.

But we might just chuck up a few more selfies and a few more sunrises in your honour because we have an excellent sense of humour.



Zoey is the Editor of The Shake. She lives in the middle of nowhere with two small children who are fond of clambering, destroying and/or stealing her computers and define level of fun according to volume of mess. Zoey is fond of taking photos, running and being not serious on the internet. You can read more here:


  1. says

    I had the same reaction when I read something about parents posting too much about their kids. Is it so hard to scroll past something if you don’t like it? people are weird. I love all your sporty updates x

  2. says

    Is this a thing now, complaining about fitness updates or whatever? Huh. It seems to be annoying you more than a bit (the Hangry Runner post, which felt kind of similar, wasn’t that long ago…)

    I understand why the negativity would get you down and easy for me to say this but – try not to let it. Post whatever you like. Personally, no insult intended but I don’t really care about fitness stuff. But then again, nor do I care about lots of the other stuff people talk about lots, eg MKR, fashion, shoes, celebrities. How insufferable and arrogant would I be to say, “That’s not my bag so … DO NOT EVER MENTION IT AGAIN”.

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